Step 4 - FRIENDS I have a couple of friends I have been hanging out with for over 40 years. We connected in the 5th grade, and for the most part, the group has not changed, except through life experiences. Growing up, each year we take a trip together, and one particular year we went to a lake. We decided to go across the lake by boat for pizza. It happened to be a very hot day that turned into a super muggy evening. At some point during dinner I got into an argument with one of my friends. It got heated and I got so angry, I left, pouting, to go back to the boat. We were arguing about some stupid thing, but at the moment it seemed super important. Everyone eventually came back to the boat where my friend and I resumed our argument. Now understand, it was muggy. We had just eaten and were on a boat with waves. As we argued, another friend attempted to bring peace, while our fourth friend gets boat sick and starts puking over the side of the boat! Did this stop the argument? NOPE! So in this boat you have four young men, two mad and yelling, one trying to bring peace, and the fourth puking his guts out over the side of the boat. It was quite the scene! It was also quite a memory and brings smiles to our faces, even to this day. This group of guys has been with me through the good and the bad times in my life. I can say they are closer than brothers to me. The same is true for them. We have held each other accountable, laughed, fought, and cried together. I would not trade these guys for anything in this world. Our relationship has not always be smooth sailing, but one thing that has stayed at the center of our relationship has been our faith in Jesus. We all understand now how important having a personal relationship with Jesus is and how important being involved in a community of faith is, as well. Even though we are all living in different states, we are still as close as ever. Does this story resonate with you? Do you find yourself longing for true community? Too often as men, we tend to isolate ourselves. We stop building communities and start building walls. We don't want to run the risk of being called out. Most have a hard time with vulnerability and can't receive constructive criticism or feedback. We have stopped sharing our hearts and share more about our accomplishments. This does not make better, but creates chasms in our development. I believe men crave community and authentic manhood. We long to create memories and share stories. We want tough conversations with someone we can trust; the type of friends who will build you up, and not tear you down. Those who have your best interest and genuinely want you to get better. A great saying is "show me your friends and I will show you your future." A great place to find these friends is in church or a small group. There are also other great organizations specifically designed to help me develop authentic community. Wherever you find them, these friends are needed and they are worth it! Questions: 1. What does your friend circle look like? 2. Do your current friends build you up, or tear you down? 3. Start asking God, today, to direct your steps and guide you to strong friends. 4. Get involved with organizations that have the same passions you do. There is a good chance you will find friends there. Proverbs 18:24 - "A man that hath friends, ought to shew himself friendly: for a friend is closer than a brother." Proverbs 27:6 - "The wounds of a lover are faithful, and the kisses of an enemy are pleasant." 1 Corinthians 15:33 - "Be not deceived: evil speaking corrupts good manners." Thank you for reading this series. Keep taking steps to be the man or woman God made you to be! I hope in some way this series has helped you rekindle or start something new that will change you life forever. Please see my website for all the blogs and services that we can provide to all. Jesus tells us that he is knocking on the door, and we just have to answer and open the door, repent, and let him in. If you are struggling with understanding or have never been offered the opportunity to hear Jesus's story, we would love to have the opportunity to make contact with you! Please visit our website listed below and fill out the contact form. We look forward to speaking with you soon. Until then, BE WELL... www.for-the-father.com

Step 3 - Healthy Habits I used to enjoy playing video games. I know a lot of people who do. It is something that relaxes me and feeds some of my competitive drive. The problem is that it can easily become addicting, due to the dopamine the activity releases to the operator of the game. I remember one day I was playing a game, and my two children at the time (both boys), wanted to play with me, but I couldn't because "Dad needed to level up!" It dawned on me at that time that this game had become an unhealthy habit. I put away the game console for my kids to play with later. I also eventually sold it. That was the "way out" God showed me. This is just one small example of many from my life that God has revealed to me to remove from my life. Which of your habits have become unhealthy? It could be what you eat or drink, what you watch or listen to, what you think about others, working out too little or too much, substance abuse, work, sports, gambling, or sex. Whatever IT is, if it has become an unhealthy habit, then it needs to stop. When it is unhealthy it has become a crutch used to make you feel better about yourself. We want to feel powerful and successful, so we pour our heart and soul into something that will give us that feeling. The more of it we have, the more of it we want, until the point that something which was meant to be used in moderation offering us positive results becomes destructive. Nothing should wield that kind of control in our lives except Jesus. We all are tempted, but when we look for a way out, He will and can provide it. He has also provided the Holy Spirit to guide us through with a war chest of Full Armor and a resource manual (The Bible ). Acknowledging that something has gotten out of control and you need help is the first move in the right direction. This is the first step, regardless if you are a Christian or not. Doing this is agreeing with Scripture that you can stand up to temptation rather than being controlled by it. By doing this, you start creating new habits that rewire and help eliminate the desire for what was unhealthy. Sometimes these habits require professional help to overcome. Other times (Most of the time) , it means completely removing the habit from your life and assistance is usually necessary. What unhealthy habit do you need remove? Don't waste any more time. Start getting healthy today. 1. What is one good habit that has become unhealthy for you? 2. What habit needs to be completely removed from your life? 3. Do you need to seek professional help for any of your habits? 1 Corinthians 10:13 - "There hath no temptation taken you, but such as appertain to man: and God is faithful, which will not suffer you to be tempted above that you be able, but will even give the issue with the temptation, that you may be able to bare it." 1 Corinthians 6:12 - "All things are lawful unto me, but all things are not profitable. I may do all thing, but I will not be brought under the power of anything." Romans 12:1 - "I beseech you brethren, by the mercies of God, that you give up your bodies as a living sacrifice, holy, acceptable unto God, which is your reasonable serving of God.

Step 2 - FEAR What are you afraid of? I used to be be deathly afraid of sharks, even though I grew thousands of miles aways from the ocean! As I grew older, the fear became more rational, but I still never wanted to run into a shark. While on an ocean getaway with my wife, we decided to go snorkeling. We were having a great time looking at all of the ocean life, when my wife started freaking out. She pointed behind us, where no more than six feet away, a four foot shark had snuck up upon us. I was paralyzed, but instead of trying to out-swim my wife, I faced that shark and watched as it swam away. I then had to go change my wetsuit! The point is, I came face to face with what I was afraid of and did not run away. Fear is a common theme today. Everyone is afraid of something. Fear seems to dominate our politics, religion, and relationships. Fear also prevents us from becoming a better man or woman. Why? Because it keeps us from trying new things and taking new opportunities. It keeps us at home playing video games, not getting a gym membership, or not going after that job promotion or opportunity, and in some cases, you calling from God. When fear controls us, we aren't walking in God-given "power, love, and self-discipline. Fear wants us to be complacent. When we are comfortable we stop improving. I believe what the world needs now, more than ever, is human beings willing to face their fears. Human beings who will not let the risks outweigh the rewards. The spirit of fear around us is not what God intends for us. If we look at the great leaders from the past, throughout history, we see that they did not let fear stop them from achieving amazing feats. It's not that they were not afraid, but they didn't let fear control them. POP Culture - There are so many stories, movies, books, songs, etc. that describe how dangerous and destructive fear is. To name a few most recent ones, Star Wars and Dune, come to my mind. Master Yoda to little Anikan Skywalker at the testing. Paul Atraites when he is being tested by the Reverend Mother - "I must not fear, fear is the mind-killer." Fear is a motivating factor and when used for good it can be world and life changing. What is one thing that you have always wanted to do? Why haven't you done it? If fear is a major reason, maybe it is time to reevaluate. People today have allowed fear to keep them from being engaging fathers and mothers, investing in their marriage, and leading their families. Today, more than ever, we need people who aren't afraid to face and conquer their fear; PEOPLE WHO WALK IN "POWER, LOVE, AND SELF DISCIPLINE." 1. Each of us have experienced legitimate fears. We all have areas we allow our fear to control. Write down 3 things that fear is controlling in your life today. What would you need to do to overcome those fears? What would your life look like if you did? 2. What is a fear you need to face? It could be dealing with your finances or facing someone who has abused or wronged you. 3. What is one small or large step you can make today to start conquering that fear? 2 Timothy 1:7 - "For God has not given us a spirit of fear, but of power, and of love, and of a sound mind." Isaiah 41:10 - "Fear not, for I am with you: be not afraid, for I am thy God: I will strengthen thee, and help thee, and will sustain thee with the right hand of My justice." 1 Corinthians 6:13 - "Meats are ordained for the belly, and the belly for the meats: but God shall destroy both it, and them. Now the body is not for fornication, but for the Lord, and the Lord for the body."

"Mostly, every person wants to be the best version of themselves they can be." We have an innate desire to improve, so why do so many people settle for being just okay? Why do we assume we can't improve, or that we are tapped out? Over these next few blogs, we will discuss some practical steps everyone can take to get out of the "okay" rut. These are steps you can take, starting today. I hope that after this series you are making strides toward being the man/woman God made you to be. Just like Pearl Jam's song a few decades ago, "A Better Man". STEP 1: Identify the LIES Growing up my grandfather used to tell us that if you sprinkled salt on a squirrel's tail you could catch it. Or have you ever been Snipe hunting? :) You know, they are both not true. I have tried! If you are like me, you believe certain things about yourself that just are not true. As I grew up, I learned to bury truth in grandeur, by being egregious with success or portrayed as something other than the truth, in order to gain influence, material gains, etc. That was one lie that I believed. What have you believed and unknowingly accepted? It could be that you are incapable of losing wight, you aren't smart enough, you will never find a significant other, or you cannot be minister of the gospel. Like Moses, Jonah, and many more from the Bible, God's plan or blueprint to becoming the best version of yourself is not available, need access code, etc. Whatever the lie is, you don't have to keep believing it. The problem is that we don't always seem to know when we are believing a lie. A lot of times, it is something that we have just accepted subconsciously. How do we start identifying these lies and calling them what they are? How do we start unmasking the deep rooted lies that we have accepted as truth? First, we have to allow God to identify the lies from truth: To "capture rebellious thought." We need to ask God to give us insight or clarity, into what He says is true. Ask him who He created you to be. Ask for discernment, to be filled with the Holy Spirit to guide you through this process, rebuke Satan, and lastly, ask your friends and family for their view of you. Flesh out the very things you have always believed and confirm whether or not they are true. Second, replace the lies with truth. This is what it means to "teach your thoughts to obey Christ." Confirm what is true. Speak the truth out loud. Set up ways to be affirmed in truth and to be accountable to others when they see you not walking in truth. It could mean seeing a counselor. It could mean writing down lies you have believed, then lining them up against scripture. Third, create opportunities to watch the truth play out in front of you. Maybe it is finding ways to measure your success. Maybe it is hitting the gym and watching the pounds drop off. Maybe it is getting involved with a singles group, Sunday school class, or other organization to assist others. Whatever it is, experiencing the joy of watching the lie die, while seeing truth manifested through faith growing your confidence and need to share with others. Today is the day you stop believing the lies and start experiencing the Truth. Don't be just "okay", be a better man/woman. 1. Allow God to separate the lies you have believes from His truth. 2. Replace lies with the truth. Write down the lies, then check them against what Scripture says. 3. Create opportunities to watch the truth play out, so you can share your success with others. 2 Corinthians 10:5 - "Casting down the imaginations, and every high thing that is exalted against the knowledge of God, and bringing into captivity every thought to the obedience of Christ." Psalms 86:11 - "Teach me thy way, O Lord, and I will walk in thy truth: knit mine heart to the, that I may fear the Name." John 8:44 - "You are of your father the devil, and the lusts of your father you will do: he has been a murderer from the beginning, and abode not in the truth, because there is no truth in him. We he speaks a lie, then he speaks of his own: for he is the father of lies."

Worry is where we mull over, ponder, and think of a negative outcome until it causes stress, anxiety, dread, and ultimately fear. We usually see things turning out very badly, and imagine the worst case scenario. We can't see that anything will get any better, only worse. What we know about the soul is whatever we continue to think about things, it affects our emotions. And so anxiety, stress, and fear begin to take over and dominate us. From this point we start to make decisions based on all this negative thinking because this is how we feel. We can tend to withdraw, avoid, shrink back, or try to work things out in our own strength. But Jesus Christ says "Do Not Worry?" The reason Jesus said for us not to worry is because of who our Father is. He created everything by His word, He created us, and He is all love, all power, all knowing. So if we are believers, then we are also sons and daughters of God. We have full access to all his help, wisdom, power, which dwells in us right now. If He is already in your heart, then everything you need is on the inside of you by the Holy Spirit. So then, the battle is in our minds, our imaginations, and this is where worry begins. What are we allowing in our minds? What are we allowing our imaginations to see? We have got to be intentional on what we think on. This is why Jesus Christ, in his Sermon on the Mount, says "don't be like those who don't know God". Don't go down the wrong path to get things in your own strength, stressing and worrying. But seek God, seek His kingdom ways, seek His promises, seek His word in your situation. Think on these things, look at these things in your thoughts and imaginations. Where you are looking is key. Whatever you put your attention on is the direction you will head in. Faith in God and His Word, and always looking at His words, your eyes on Him. We know when we are worrying and anxious, we have taken our attention away from God and His Kingdom ways and put them back on our own abilities and strength. But 2 Peter 1 says - "We have already been given all we need for life and godliness through the promises of God. This is not easy, as there are plenty of things going to tell you it's not true." So what kingdom are you operating in today? Where are you looking today? The Kingdom of God - operates by faith and trust in God's ways, God's word. All the other kingdoms of the world operate in stress, fear, worry, and anxiety. Jesus came to deliver us from all of this, by showing us a different way to lie in His kingdom. So I ask you, which kingdom do you want to live in today? In Matthew, chapter 6, Jesus gives us a road map on how to navigate this kingdom and not to lean on our own ideas, or notions, or motives. We need to die to selfishness, submit ourselves daily to God's purpose and plans for our lives, and allow the Holy Spirit to guide us down the path of righteousness. This is a remedy to eliminate the fears out and away from our lives. Read the chapter below and keep it close to your heart and mind. Be well... Matthew Chapter 6: 1 Take heed that ye do not your alms before men, to be seen of them: otherwise ye have no reward of your Father which is in heaven. 2 Therefore when thou doest thine alms, do not sound a trumpet before thee, as the hypocrites do in the synagogues and in the streets, that they may have glory of men. Verily I say unto you, They have their reward. 3 But when thou doest alms, let not thy left hand know what thy right hand doeth: 4 That thine alms may be in secret: and thy Father which seeth in secret himself shall reward thee openly. 5 And when thou prayest, thou shalt not be as the hypocrites are : for they love to pray standing in the synagogues and in the corners of the streets, that they may be seen of men. Verily I say unto you, They have their reward. 6 But thou, when thou prayest, enter into thy closet, and when thou hast shut thy door, pray to thy Father which is in secret; and thy Father which seeth in secret shall reward thee openly. 7 But when ye pray, use not vain repetitions, as the heathen do : for they think that they shall be heard for their much speaking. 8 Be not ye therefore like unto them: for your Father knoweth what things ye have need of, before ye ask him. 9 After this manner therefore pray ye: Our Father which art in heaven, Hallowed be thy name. 10 Thy kingdom come. Thy will be done in earth, as it is in heaven. 11 Give us this day our daily bread. 12 And forgive us our debts, as we forgive our debtors. 13 And lead us not into temptation, but deliver us from evil: For thine is the kingdom, and the power, and the glory, for ever. Amen. 14 For if ye forgive men their trespasses, your heavenly Father will also forgive you: 15 But if ye forgive not men their trespasses, neither will your Father forgive your trespasses. 16 Moreover when ye fast, be not, as the hypocrites, of a sad countenance: for they disfigure their faces, that they may appear unto men to fast. Verily I say unto you, They have their reward. 17 But thou, when thou fastest, anoint thine head, and wash thy face; 18 That thou appear not unto men to fast, but unto thy Father which is in secret: and thy Father, which seeth in secret, shall reward thee openly. 19 Lay not up for yourselves treasures upon earth, where moth and rust doth corrupt, and where thieves break through and steal: 20 But lay up for yourselves treasures in heaven, where neither moth nor rust doth corrupt, and where thieves do not break through nor steal: 21 For where your treasure is, there will your heart be also. 22 The light of the body is the eye: if therefore thine eye be single, thy whole body shall be full of light. 23 But if thine eye be evil, thy whole body shall be full of darkness. If therefore the light that is in thee be darkness, how great is that darkness! 24 No man can serve two masters: for either he will hate the one, and love the other; or else he will hold to the one, and despise the other. Ye cannot serve God and mammon. 25 Therefore I say unto you, Take no thought for your life, what ye shall eat, or what ye shall drink; nor yet for your body, what ye shall put on. Is not the life more than meat, and the body than raiment? 26 Behold the fowls of the air: for they sow not, neither do they reap, nor gather into barns; yet your heavenly Father feedeth them. Are ye not much better than they? 27 Which of you by taking thought can add one cubit unto his stature? 28 And why take ye thought for raiment? Consider the lilies of the field, how they grow; they toil not, neither do they spin: 29 And yet I say unto you, That even Solomon in all his glory was not arrayed like one of these. 30 Wherefore, if God so clothe the grass of the field, which to day is, and to morrow is cast into the oven, shall he not much more clothe you, O ye of little faith? 31 Therefore take no thought, saying, What shall we eat? or, What shall we drink? or, Wherewithal shall we be clothed? 32 (For after all these things do the Gentiles seek:) for your heavenly Father knoweth that ye have need of all these things. 33 But seek ye first the kingdom of God, and his righteousness; and all these things shall be added unto you. 34 Take therefore no thought for the morrow: for the morrow shall take thought for the things of itself. Sufficient unto the day is the evil thereof.

If you look at the ancient buildings and archaeological findings in Israel, you will notice that the symbol of the menorah appears time and time again. For millennia, it was the symbol of the people of Israel, long before the Star of David. But historians don’t really know why this symbol rather than any other. Perhaps the New Covenant has some answers? What is the meaning of the menorah? The menorah has always been God’s idea. It first appears in Exodus chapter 25, as God instructs them how to make it: “You are to make a menorah of pure gold. It is to be made of hammered work; its base, shaft, cups, ring of outer leaves and petals are to be of one piece with it. It is to have six branches extending from its sides, three branches of the menorah on one side of it and three on the other. On one branch are to be three cups shaped like almond blossoms, each with a ring of outer leaves and petals; likewise on the opposite branch three cups shaped like almond blossoms, each with a ring of outer leaves and petals; and similarly for all six branches extending from the menorah… Make seven lamps for the menorah, and mount them so as to give light to the space in front of it.” (verses 31-37, Complete Jewish Bible) When we see the instructions that God gives to Moses on how precisely to build the tabernacle, we are struck by the incredible amount of detail involved. Every tiny detail has been considered to perfection. It might seem strange to our ears sometimes, but if we are willing to “seek diligently” as the two central words of the Torah say, then we can find some wonderful truths hidden in God’s law. The book of Hebrews gives us some help on our quest, reminding us in chapter 8 that all the items God told Moses to make “serve as a copy and shadow of the heavenly things.” “…For when Moses was about to erect the tent, he was instructed by God, saying, “See that you make everything according to the pattern that was shown you on the mountain.” But as it is, the Messiah has obtained a ministry that is as much more excellent than the old as the covenant he mediates is better, since it is enacted on better promises.” Hebrews 8:5-6 By studying the tabernacle with all its details, we can learn about heavenly things. They are a shadow, a pattern of what was to come in the Messiah. But let’s look at the original lampstand commissioned by God. Solid gold, with seven stands but made of one piece, and adorned with almond blossoms… The Menorah spreads Light First of all, the light given by the massive menorah in the dark tent would have been a powerful symbol of God’s light and holiness in our dark and sinful world. Jewish tradition holds that it reminds the people of Israel that they are also called to be his “Light to the nations” as God prescribed in Isaiah 42:6. Gently spreading light without force – “Not by might, nor by power, but by my Spirit, says the LORD” , in Zechariah 4:6, when the prophet asks about the menorah. It’s a symbol of bringing God’s glory, truth, and light into the world. And his people are called to be his representatives in bringing that light too. Jesus teaches in Matthew 5 that we too are called to be that light to the world: “You are the light of the world. A city set on a hill cannot be hidden. Nor do people light a lamp and put it under a basket, but on a stand, and it gives light to all in the house. In the same way, let your light shine before others, so that they may see your good works and give glory to your Father who is in heaven.” The light is a witness to and of God. In John 8, we see Jesus speaking in the temple, declaring, “I am the light of the world. Whoever follows me will never walk in darkness, but will have the light of life.” The Pharisees challenged him, “Here you are, appearing as your own witness; your testimony is not valid.” Verse 20 tells us that: “He spoke these words while teaching in the temple courts near the place where the offerings were put.” He was standing close to the huge temple menorah, declaring himself to be that ultimate light and witness, as indeed he is. The menorah was a shadow of the coming Messiah, and his chosen witnesses to the world: the body of believers. The Seven branches the Menorah As we know, seven is God’s number of completion, but despite the plurality of lamps, it is made of one ‘piece’. Seven in one, like a rainbow, or a week. We know that it is to represent the presence of God among in the midst of them, and in Revelation we also see the lampstands representing the Spirit’s presence in the churches to whom John writes the messages from Yeshua. There are seven churches listed, but one bride of Yeshua. The other aspect of the seven branches design is that it resembles a tree. In Jewish tradition, the menorah is reminiscent of the Tree of Life from the creation story. We can see from the New Testament in the book of Revelation that the tree is equated with eternal life. Adam and Eve were banished from it, and Revelation 22 tells us that those with clean robes have the right to eat from it. Thus, the menorah speaks of eternal life with God for his bride, made available to us all, only through the blood of the Messiah. Jesus said “I am the true vine, you are the branches” in John 15. He is the tree, and only in him can we live spiritually and produce fruit. Almond blossom And why almond blossoms on the menorah? Every detail is significant with God, and no word is wasted. Almond trees are mentioned elsewhere in the Bible in significant ways – the first time was when Aaron’s priestly authority was questioned, and his staff budded, bloomed and produced fruit overnight as validation from God. The second is when God shows Jeremiah an almond branch in a vision. God uses a Hebrew word-play, as the word for ‘almond’ is also root of the word to be ‘diligent and hard-working’, because the tree blooms and produces fruit before any other tree – in the middle of winter. It is a metaphor for haste and determined work. God assures Jeremiah that he is diligently watching over his word to fulfill it, in Jeremiah 1:12, and so almond blossoms are a symbol of God’s determination to carry out his plans. In Zechariah 4, we see the prophet bewildered by a vision of a menorah with two olive trees either side, providing oil for the lamps. Again, if we turn to the New Testament to look for two olive trees, we hear Paul describing Jews and Gentiles in Romans 11 as two olive trees; the wild Gentile tree being grafted into the cultivated Jewish tree, through Jesus. The two become one in him: “But now in Christ Jesus you who once were far off have been brought near by the blood of Christ. For he himself is our peace, who has made us both one and has broken down in his flesh the dividing wall of hostility by abolishing the law of commandments expressed in ordinances, that he might create in himself one new man in place of the two, so making peace, and might reconcile us both to God in one body through the cross, thereby killing the hostility. And he came and preached peace to you who were far off and peace to those who were near. For through him we both have access in one Spirit to the Father. So then you are no longer strangers and aliens, but you are fellow citizens with the saints and members of the household of God, built on the foundation of the apostles and prophets, Christ Jesus himself being the cornerstone, in whom the whole structure, being joined together, grows into a holy temple in the Lord. In him you also are being built together into a dwelling place for God by the Spirit. ” (Ephesians 2:13-22) The items in the desert tabernacle spoke of what was to come in the New Covenant – one bride of Messiah: Jew and Gentile called together, brought purified and clean before God to dwell with him. What a powerful symbol, and what riches are spoken by the God-designed menorah. How wonderful it is to have been brought into the New Covenant, and that we can see the fulfillment in Jesus , the One to whom the menorah points. As Christians, or followers of Jesus Christ, it is important to understand things like this from the Word of God. Maybe we all should spend more time in this amazing gift. Be well... Golden Menorah

"Blessed are the poor in spirit, for theirs is the kingdom of heaven." What does Jesus mean when he talks about blessings? The word Blessed in Greek is Makarios , and it's difficult to translate into English. Many translators used the word Blessed or Happy as the meaning they could get. There is an eternal Joy on the inside that the world cannot give you. This means no matter what happens in my day, I have a joy that cannot be taken away. These Beatitudes re an invitation into a completely counter-cultural value system that no circumstance or happening can take our Joy away. It's by living with these new instructions that Jesus gives, that he is inviting us to live a truly flourishing life. The first group that Jesus says is blessed are the poor in spirit. What does He mean to be poor in spirit? In the book of Matthew, chapter 5, verse 3, the word that is used in the original New Testament Greek is a word that means "poverty, to cower, to cringe like a beggar". In classical Greek usage, it was used the same way, as someone who crouches, who bends, who wretchedly begs for money or for worth. And if you take this meaning of the word and you combine it with "in spirit", you get "poverty in spirit". What it is saying is: those who are poor in spirit are those who are blessed, are those who will have the kingdom of heaven. You could translate it like this, "Blessed are those who are so desperately poor in their spiritual resources that they realize that they must have help from outside sources. Theirs is the kingdom of heaven" . Matthew 5:3-20 : "Blessed are the poor in spirit, for theirs is the kingdom of heaven. Blessed are they that mourn: for they shall be comforted. Blessed are the meek: for they shall inherit the earth. Blessed are they which hunger and thirst for righteousness: for they shall be filled. Blessed are the merciful: for they shall obtain mercy. Blessed are the pure in heart: for they shall see God. Blessed are the peacemakers: for they shall be called the children of God. Blessed are they which suffer persecution for righteousness sake: for theirs is the kingdom of heaven. Blessed shall you be when men revile you, and persecute you, and say all manner of evil against you for My sake, falsely. Rejoice and be glad, for great is your reward in heaven: for so persecuted they the Prophets which were before you. You are the salt of the earth: but if the salt has lost its savor, wherewith shall it be salted? It is thenceforth good for nothing, but to be cast out, and to trodden under the foot of men. You re the light of the world. A city that is set on a hill, cannot be hidden. Neither do men light a candle, and put it under a bushel, but on a candlestick, and it giveth light unto all that are in the house. Let your light so shine before men, that they may see your good works, and glorify your Father, which is in Heaven. Think not that I come to destroy the Law, or the Prophets. I am not come to destroy them, but to fulfill them. For truly I say unto you, Till Heaven, and earth perish, one iota or title of the Law shall not escape, till all things be fulfilled. Whosoever therefore shall break one of these least commandments, and teach men so, he shall be called the least in the kingdom of heaven: but whosoever shall observe and teach them, the same shall be called great in the kingdom of heaven. For I say unto you, except your righteousness exceed the righteousness of the Scribes and Pharisees, you shall not enter into the kingdom of heaven." So I ask you, where are you today? What is your heart yearning for? Do you know someone that needs guidance or assistance of any kind? Maybe by listening to others and sharing the Gospel of Jesus Christ, we can help ourselves, along with helping others come to know Him. The Sermon on the Mount is an awesome tool or resource on how we as Christians, or followers of Jesus Christ, should live our daily lives and interact with others. I would encourage you to open up the Word of God and read over those passages and refresh your mind and spirit. We all have the ability to strive for righteousness and be the salt and the light that can lead others to find that JOY or the PEACE that passes all understanding. But we have to come to know it within ourselves first, then help others find their way in this dark world. I hope you have found this useful and inspiring. Until next time. .. Be well... Sermon on the Mount

After six weeks in Florida recently, I was able to meet and assist several people throughout the state affected by the most recent storms. The emotional range was all over the map, ranging from anger to hopelessness, and fear. Florida is a beautiful place and full of rich multicultural environments, that feed the daily lives of millions of Floridians. Some are there for work, some are there for escaping the cold weather from up north, and some were born there and just have not left what they call paradise. There is an element of tropical landscape that can draw in even the most meager personalities and get you swept up into an emotional tornado regarding even the most mundane thoughts. I did encounter lots of Gratitude from all types of people while I was there for work regarding recovery efforts. I am very thankful to have been able to work in Florida and meet some wonderful personalities and will consider vacationing there in the future. The Law of Divine Oneness , states that we are all interconnected through our creation, by the creator, (God), in other words what or whoever created you, created me, using the same materials. We all have different lives or independence to make choices daily, but we need to understand that all choices affect your personal environment and others you surround yourself with. I am a Christian, a follower of Jesus Christ, and can rely on the power and access of the Holy Spirit to help guide me through understanding that all of this is provided to us from God the Father. This is considered an extreme lifestyle by most of this world and not practical or logical. This is because we live in a society that promotes escapism and self manifestation. This world teaches that we can not fail at passive activities and we can manifest the things you want all by yourself. I don't support these theories, because I believe that there is both good and evil, so something is driving or assisting these outcomes. We are not alone and we have to make our own choice to create change within our own lives. When you understand that you have the power to create change where it is needed, embrace what is working, and this will create a positive intention or ripple of positive energy throughout your immediate environment. You can do this by injecting positive words , out loud, to align your energy to positively charged thoughts. Words are energized, so use them to build up, promote, support, encourage, to show Gratitude , and to love. In order for you to do this outwardly towards others, you have to pay attention to your own inner dialogue and keep it in check. You can do this by starting with complimenting yourself daily. Compliments are the gifts of prosperity and the language of abundance. This creates a positive mindset within you first, then to overflow your positivity into others. Joy is cultivated by a consistent practice of Gratitude . We must strive daily to achieve an Attitude of Gratitude . Here are 5 things you can start with daily to help integrate into various parts of your daily routine. 1. First thought of the day and the last thought/emotion of the day. This effects so much and if you get these right, then your days and sleep cycle will always benefit you positively. 2. Look for simple details to be Grateful for. I am sure that you have heard, "that its all about the little things," and "that the KISS (Keep It Simple Stupid) theory is the best." 3. Slow down and make space. Make sure you are investing the necessary time to keep your own personal thoughts and emotions in check. We can't expel positivity if we don't have it on the inside. Meditation, prayer, and reading the Word of God, is the best recipe, that I have found. 4. Start a new hobby or passion. Sometimes we need to restart with something new, and revitalize our inner being. Just remember, there is nothing more contagious than NEW positive excitement, except negative "stuck-in a rut" energy. Remember that negative emotions that are ignored become negative stuck energy in the body. 5. Be Mindful - ALWAYS!!! Please understand that you need to know where you are emotionally, before ever assisting others. Sometimes its best to say nothing, just LISTEN . I hope you have found this blog inspiring and helpful. Please be mindful of yourself and others Always!! Find your Attitude of Gratitude today... Be Well...

I have started to realize that as humans, we only learn from our failures. To be honest, that statement really discourages a lot of people from even making an attempt at anything, due to their fear of failure. We live in a world that constantly tells us that success only happens when you score the most points, or make the highest number of sales, or even if you make the most money. I disagree. Success, comes in many forms. In fact, it can only come from previous failures or you would not even call it a success, due to there would be no way to tell the difference. I might be just stating the obvious, but I think it is time we start looking at failure right in its face and say, "I understand that I missed the mark, but I will have no fear to keep on moving forward." Too many of us just quit after a few try's and think that it was not meant to be, or this is not my thing. When clearly we have fear of change. We ask ourselves: Maybe it is us? Maybe we should ask for assistance? Maybe we should just give up? Move on...? Like in the Star Wars and Dune movies - "Fear is the mind killer, I must not fear." "Fear is the path to the Dark side, Fear leads to Anger, Anger leads to Hate, Hate leads to Suffering." Any phycologist will tell you the same thing. There are multiple quotes in a book inspired by the Word of God made flesh (aka Jesus Christ), that give us a way to change or renew our minds, hearts, and thoughts. We must be willing to change the way we look at things like failures while in the valley of despair and how we deal with the emotions that follow. More to come, but do be afraid of change and have no fear in the valley's, someone is always there with you. All you have to do is change your reactions by submitting to Gods will and follow the path of righteousness. Be well...

The Idea of Active Listening Active listening is often described as a practice in effective communication. But it’s far more than that. It’s a leadership strategy. Simply put, we need to be interested before we are interesting. It’s a nearly 100-year-old concept first written about by Dale Carnegie in How to Win Friends and Influence People . But, I would argue it’s more important now than it’s ever been, especially with young people. On another note, it also allows you to see things that might not be said, allowing to foster an environment of trust and mutual respect. “You can make more friends in two months by becoming interested in other people than you can in two years by trying to get other people interested in you.” Dale Carnegie, How to Win Friends and Influence People Research Insight: Techniques and Strategies The study, “Techniques and Strategies to Develop Active Listening Skills: The Armor for Effective Communication across Business Organizations” by P. Khanna (2020) emphasizes the critical role of active listening. It’s presented as a vital soft skill that is often overlooked in professional settings but is crucial for building trust, establishing rapport, and enhancing problem-solving capabilities within teams. This week, we are going to highlight the strategies they researched within teams that enhanced leaders’ and teams’ active listening: So, what does this research suggest? Empathy and Attention: Active listening demands empathy towards the speaker and paying full attention to their words. This involves being fully present in the conversation, without distractions, and seeking to understand the speaker’s perspective. Mindful Listening: The paper stresses the importance of mindful listening, which entails listening with the intent to understand rather than to reply. This approach helps in acknowledging the speaker’s viewpoint and encourages a more constructive dialogue. Feedback and Paraphrasing: Providing feedback through paraphrasing what has been heard is a technique to ensure understanding. It clarifies misinterpretations and demonstrates to the speaker that their message is being actively processed. Non-Verbal Cues: Recognizing and responding to non-verbal cues includes maintaining eye contact, nodding, and other gestures that indicate engagement and understanding. Questioning: Ask open-ended questions that encourage the speaker to elaborate on their points. This fosters open communication. Avoid Interruption: Do not interrupt the speaker. It seems simple, but so many people interrupt speakers when “listening”. Give them time to complete their thoughts, even rest in silence for a second to make sure they’re done speaking Practice and Conscious Effort: Developing active listening skills requires practice and a conscious effort to implement these strategies in daily communication. Regular reflection on one’s listening habits and seeking feedback will help you! Conclusion : Active listening is a cornerstone to develop effective 21st-century leadership, particularly in high-pressure situations, and especially with young people. By truly listening to what your team members say, leaders and members can build trust, uncover underlying/never spoken about issues, and eventually drive their teams to greater success. It happens from more than just hearing words; it’s about understanding the full message, to include the emotional drivers behind it, and the unspoken cues or motivators. Implementing active listening strategies can revolutionize the way leaders interact with their teams, leading to improved performance, enhanced team dynamics, and a culture of mutual respect and understanding, that will allow your teams to reach higher goals and set higher self achievement standards. Just remember, there is no I, in team... Be Well...

In life, our empathy and compassion are among our greatest strengths. They allow us to connect with others, offer support, and build meaningful relationships. However, it's essential to be discerning about where we direct our sympathy. The quote, "Be careful who you feel sorry for... Some people are good at lying and playing the victim," serves as a poignant reminder of this need for discernment. Some individuals have mastered the art of deception, presenting themselves as victims to manipulate others. They may weave intricate tales of hardship and injustice, eliciting sympathy and support from those around them. This behavior can stem from various motivations, including a desire for attention, control, or avoidance of responsibility. Identifying those who play the victim can be challenging, but there are telltale signs. These individuals often refuse to take responsibility for their actions, instead blaming others for their misfortunes. They may also exhibit a pattern of seeking sympathy while making little effort to change their circumstances. Understanding these behaviors can help us protect our emotional well-being and ensure our compassion is directed towards those who genuinely need it. When we extend our sympathy to those who manipulate us, we inadvertently take away from those who truly need our support. Genuine victims of hardship, abuse, or misfortune may be overlooked or dismissed because of the actions of those who falsely claim victimhood. It's crucial to remain vigilant and ensure our empathy reaches those who genuinely deserve it. Balancing compassion with discernment doesn't mean becoming cynical or distrusting. Instead, it involves being mindful and observant. Ask yourself whether the person in question is taking steps to improve their situation or if they consistently rely on others to solve their problems. Genuine victims often show resilience and a desire to overcome their challenges, even if they need support along the way. By being careful about who we feel sorry for, we can better empower true victims. Offering support to those who genuinely need it can make a significant difference in their lives. It can provide them with the strength and resources to overcome their challenges and build a better future. In conclusion, while our empathy is a powerful tool for good, it's essential to wield it wisely. By recognizing the signs of those who play the victim and directing our compassion towards genuine victims, we can make a more meaningful and positive impact. Remember, being careful about who you feel sorry for isn't about withholding compassion; it's about ensuring that our support reaches those who truly need it. Stay compassionate, stay discerning, and continue to make a difference in the lives of those who genuinely need your support. If you like what you see, we have all types of programs for All ages and backgrounds! Check out our website and discover All we have to offer. www.for-the-father.com Be Well... Aric D. Cunningham - aka 81 Dragonfly

In todays world, we are all caught up with wanting to not only individually grow, but to maximize our relationship satisfaction. I am sure we all remember sayings like: "You get back what you put in." or "You get what you give." Well, I am here to tell you that after 30 years of marriage, you have to continually work on yourself more than your spouse. I recently read an article about this topic and it led me to write this blog. It was directed towards what women should be giving to their spouse. I wanted to bring this to you as both parties should be doing the 10 items coherently. Not just the one sided. Granted, I don't always get things right and I can admit that, but here we go!!! 1. The Room To Chase - Your spouse desires the room to chase their own dreams & inspirations. This reflects a partners trust and belief in their capabilities. 2. Variety - This involves embracing spontaneity, trying new experiences, and keeping things interesting. 3. RESPECT - This involves valuing your spouses opinions, acknowledging their strengths, and treating them as an equal partner. This builds a very strong relationship, but this also requires knowing your place in the relationship and respecting yourself first. 4. Your TRUST - This signifies belief in your spouses character, decisions, and their loyalty. This creates a sense of security, intimacy, and emotional connection. This builds mutual trust as you "Get what you Give." 4.1. Space - Respecting each others need for independence, hobbies, and personal time. This shows trust & appreciation for individuality. 5. & 6. Compliments & Appreciation - Genuine praise for their efforts, achievements, and qualities. This boosts confidence, strengthens emotional connect, and shows that you value their contributions. 7. Initiation - This involves taking the lead in planning dates, initiating conversations, and expressing affection. This builds respect and strengthens the emotional bond between you and your spouse. 8. A BUDDY - This is not just a romantic partner, but also a Friend. Sharing laughter, crying together, hobbies, and supporting each others goals. This builds a strong emotional support system. 9. Acceptance of your spouses help - This signifies trust & appreciation for their efforts, whether it is with tasks, decisions, or emotional support. It validates them as a partner in your relationship. 10. Spontaneity & Passion - This encompasses unexpected gestures, adventurous activities, and expressing affection in a spontaneous manner. This can be large or small things. " It not just the thought that counts, its the actions. " I hope somehow this gives you some basic advice to bettering your relationships. Just remember that ALL CHANGE starts within yourself. We can never expect others to change if we are not wiling to do it ourselves. I hope you have a blessed week. Thanks! Check out our website for additional blogs and opportunities. www.for-the-father.com BE WELL...